the art of stillness…


… which I’m yet to master!

I’m listening to Pico Iyer’s TED talk on the importance of taking time for stillness. I agree with everything he says and yet seem unable to stop what I’m doing and be still. Just be. This is something that doesn’t come naturally to me.

My grandmother used to say that your hands could always be busy with something. She never just sat watching TV, no. There was always something to do, to sew, to knit, to mend. She would sit with us in front of the TV alright, but her hands would not stop working. And this seemed normal to me.

The only time my hands stop is when I’m reading. I can be still then, but does that count as taking time for stillness? I have my doubts. I can cope with it though, the stillness through reading, the busy hands, it’s who I am and how I know how to be. Stillness for me is peace of mind and rest, even when my hands are moving.Β The thing that drew me to that talk was something else.

The digital era. When am I (are we) ever still? I check emails on my phone quite frequently, whatsapp (I love it!) always on, instagram because you never know how many beautiful photos may have been uploaded since I last checked it 5 minutes ago. And I’m never still. My mind does not wonder through the stories and worlds of books, nor does it relax in that repetitive and soothing movement that knitting brings, nor is it creating things from plain pieces of fabric… nope, none of that stillness from the immediate for me.

As I listened to the talk, I felt this urge to stop, to pause, to sit on the sofa and let Olivia on my lap. Look through the window and let my hands rest on her. Mind still. Be still.



  1. 24 March 2015 / 09:23

    So true, with digital our mind is busy, yet not productive; our attention is gone, yet we are not relaxing. Yet, it is really difficult to peel our selves away from our favourite applications or websites for fear of missing out.
    Even going for a walk or a run… This used to be my relax time, and when I did my best thinking, but it is now taken over by podcasts because I feel the need to hear about the latest product launch, the most recent research…

  2. 24 March 2015 / 13:14

    Thank you for this post. You and I are in exactly the same stage and that’s a great feeling.
    I am in the learning process yet I do believe in the power of it.
    Warm hug and wishing you plenty of ‘still’ moments with Olivia x

  3. 27 March 2015 / 16:41

    Completely agree… every.single.bit.of.time seems to be filled with something!
    I should home and chill now… it’s sunny and gin is relaxing πŸ™‚

  4. 27 March 2015 / 16:43

    Thanks, lovely! It’s good to know I have ‘company’ πŸ™‚
    Hugs back and let’s enjoy our furry friends πŸ˜€

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